How to Want More Without Feeling Less Than
A clear look at abundance vs. scarcity mindset
Lately, terms like “abundance mindset” and “scarcity mindset” seem to be everywhere. We nod along, thinking, “Abundance = good. Scarcity = bad.”
But what do these buzzwords actually mean in practice? And more importantly:
How do you look at areas of your life where you want more, without spiraling into self-doubt, comparison, or feeling like you’re behind? What does it actually look like to think abundantly, not anxiously?
Let’s break it down.
Wanting More ≠ Scarcity
If you want to create meaningful change in any area of your life, whether it’s your finances, relationships, or career, the first step is to take an honest look at where you are right now.
No sugarcoating. No self-judgment. Just a clear, honest look at where you are.
Taking an honest look at your life often reveals the places where something feels lacking or where you're longing for more:
More money
More connection
More ease
More confidence
Here’s the key: wanting more doesn’t mean you’re thinking in scarcity. It’s how you approach that desire that makes all the difference.
What Scarcity and Abundance Really Mean (and How to Tell the Difference
Scarcity Mindset:
Gets stuck in comparison, fear, or self-judgment
Believes there’s a finite amount of success, love, or opportunity
Sounds like:
“I’m behind”
“I’m not enough”
“Everyone else is doing better”
Abundance Mindset:
Recognizes struggles but trusts growth is always available
Believes circumstances are temporary and changeable
Focuses on resourcefulness, gratitude, and possibility
How to Take Inventory Without Slipping Into Scarcity
1. Collect Data Without Judgment
Instead of mentally tallying everything you don’t have, start observing from a neutral place:
What’s working well right now?
Where am I craving more?
Think of yourself as a scientist gathering information, not a critic grading yourself.
2. Let Go of the Comparison Trap
It’s easy to see someone else’s success and immediately feel behind. But here’s the truth:
Their abundance doesn’t take away from yours.
Their timeline has nothing to do with your own.
Your journey is yours alone, and abundance is not a zero-sum game.
3. Awareness = Power, Not Lack
There’s nothing scarcity-minded about saying:
“I’d love to feel more financially secure.”
“I want to have deeper connections.”
Being able to see where you want growth while still trusting yourself to get there? That’s abundance.
Quick Reframe Questions
When in doubt, ask yourself:
Am I naming this to problem-solve and grow, or to dwell in worry?
Am I grateful for what’s already working, even as I want more?
Do I trust that my success is inevitable, even if right now it feels uncertain?
These questions help you pause, get perspective, and stay intentional instead of reactive.
Final Thoughts
Scarcity shows up when you believe there’s not enough or when you judge yourself for not being further along.
Abundance is about being honest about where you are, while trusting in your ability to keep growing and creating what you want.
So the next time you hear "abundance mindset" thrown around, remember—it’s not about pretending everything is perfect. It’s about knowing you can want more, build more, and still be deeply rooted in your worth and gratitude.
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